Posts filed under 'Love and Relationsips'
September 15th, 2007
Today, a great day for me, my son just completed 21. He is my only son, I love him too much. He is brilliant, he is energetic, he is hopeful, he has all the ingredients a success seeking person is to possess. According to Indian Law he can now marry, have his own family, in one sense now he is actually adult. I am very, very much proud of him.
Whenever there is a chance, I tell my colleagues of all the good qualities he has, and by the by he is also a good earning member of the family, though I prefer not to share his earnings, and it also gives me great pleasure that he earns more than me, though he is a student till date, he is pursuing his computer studies.
He has no bad company, nothing bad in him, except some ill-temperament, I think he is not responsible for it, his ill health in his childhood days made him so. But each and every person is born with his destiny, others can only assist a person to reach that destiny. I, an individual, also can not expect and think that everything will be achieved by him as per my expectation. I should be happy that there may be sons better than my son, but my son is also better than so many sons whose fathers are in deep depression pondering over the future of their sons.
I wish so many returns of this happy birthday of my son, a son whom so many people will like to have. I pray to God almighty to give him whatever He has to give from his never ending storehouse.
And may my love and affection for him keep him out of all the dangers he faces in life.
June 15th, 2007
What is love? From the very dawn of life on earth, this question has baffled all the natural living beings, let alone the human beings. We, proudly announce that human beings are the greatest and the most elite creations of nature. We, the human beings are the most selfish in nature.
Look at the other living beings of nature, they are more peaceful than us in case of love. None knows whom you will love, even you yourself do not know it, once Rabindranath wrote “Premer phand pata e bhubane, ke kotha dhara pare ke jane?” In English it means “The trap of love is laid everywhere in this world, none knows who will be trapped and where”.
Actually this is the stern reality. You do not know when, where, how you will get caught, where your likings will meet its fulfillment. And then comes your social obligation. After all, you are a social human being who has to abide by the rules and regulations of the so called society you are in. And then comes the deadly question - ” Have you the right to like or to love anyone else other than that person your social structure permits?”. And that is an unanswered question that will go on haunting you……. ever and ever…….no way out. Then what to do……? Can any one answer it? I am waiting. 
April 16th, 2007
The Web provides yet another way to cheat; as if marriage didn’t have enough hazards to face, the Internet adds an ever-increasing threat: cyber love. Don’t get me wrong, I think the Internet is absolutely wonderful. It has advanced communication faster than any other development in history, is accessible even in remote areas around the globe, and, personally, it has provided me with a new career path.
The Internet has created jobs, businesses, wealth and power. It provides a way for people to communicate with family and friends by chat or e-mail. It provides a support network (such as the “family” that has developed on the Divorce Support Forum) for people who perhaps have no other source of good support in a time of need.
It is a new, trendy way to meet potential mates.
And it has provided another way for cheaters to cheat. A person who is unhappily married or who has a problem being faithful can be “single and looking” with a name like “Candy” or “Studman” with an age, physical attributes, career, and economic status all created to fit the person they wish they were instead of the person they really are. If they need a photo to go along with their new persona they can “lift” one that suits them their their online “friend” wants to exchange photos. If they’re lucky, the two of them won’t have lifted photos from the same site.
It can be a harmless pastime; becoming another person for a few hours of “harmless” fun in a chatroom or in e-mail exchange. It can take a person’s mind off a bad situation in their home and marriage. It can add the sizzle that’s been missing from an otherwise ordinary life.
But who is fooling whom?
When “Candy” and “Studman” chat or send e-mail back and forth, which one of them is taking the exchange seriously and which one is only doing it for laughs? Are they both real or are they both creating an online persona that will eventually cause them grief?
Love online doesn’t have to be a disaster if you’re single and cautious. If you’re single you’ll find plenty of information at the About Dating site.
If you’re married, I believe only ONE rule applies: Don’t go looking for love online (or anywhere else). It will be hazardous to your marriage!
What makes online love so dangerous to a marriage? When a marriage is in trouble, when a husband or wife is vulnerable and seeking comfort, it is too easy to believe the words in the chat window or written in e-mail. It is too easy to turn an online lover into a fantasy person, a person who fills all the needs, a person who comforts, a person who knows the right words at the right time. A perfect soul mate.
It is too easy to fall for perfected pick-up lines and glossy love words perhaps penned by a “Candy” or a “Studman” who may be playing the game with several people at the same time, or who is in the game only for some “laughs” and who has no intention of showing their true self.
The Web makes it very easy to cheat as too many of you have already learned. Some of you have lost your marriage to your spouse’s fantasy lover, and some of you have lost your marriage because you believed “Candy” or “Studman” was the “soul mate” you’ve been seeking.
Cheating is cheating whether it is with the guy next door or the woman who signs herself “Candy” when she e-mails you. Cheating has never been easier than now, when you can remain anonymous as you turn on your home or office computer, sign on and start typing.
As easy as the new technology has made it, before you think about cheating online, think what it will do to the person you vowed to love and honor. Cheating online is not harmless fun. Virtual sex is not harmless sex. You will hurt someone, your spouse, your family, and even that lonely person who believes those words you type.
If you want to share your online love experience, post your comments below and take care of yourself…
March 12th, 2006
Have you ever fallen in love with two different persons at the same time? Falling in love with two different persons whom both have the same feeling for you too? Well, there is actually nothing wrong with that. In fact I would say that it is something very normal, sometimes even falling for more than two persons for some.
We are after all human beings, creatures of great emotions. It is just natural for one to develop a liking for the opposite sex, especially when the both are getting along very well. Sometimes, it is just so hard for us to control our feeling and nevertheless, it has always been human nature to be greedy. It is always good to be able to have the best of both worlds isn’t it? But well, things are usually just not possible. At the end of the day, you just have to make your choice, to decide for yourself, your one and only love whom that person to be.
To love or not to love, it is your choice. Think of it this way. In our path of life, we are always faced with choices. Choices that we have to make decisions over; decisions that will affect our life. At circumstances, even having to make immediate decision on the spot, decisions concerning of life and death. Sometimes we made the right decision and sometimes the wrong. But no matter what our decisions might have brought so far; we accepted them, didn’t we?
That is life. There is not way the world is going to stop moving just for you. To turn left or to turn right, to move forward or to turn back, you just have to make up your mind. I should believe that you will not choose to be stuck at the cross junction for your whole life?
Well, a game of chances and uncertainties life has nevertheless always been. If you never play you can never win. You have just got to make your choice, to decide where to place your bet. You can of course choose to give up, not to risk your bet. You always have your choice. Life is just so full of choices, remember? But well, will you later regret giving up that chance when you have it?
The same goes for love. Between the both, you just got to decide whom you really like more. Well, having choices is always better than not having any at all, right?
I should also believe that you are not going to give up that chance of even placing your bet? I know it is going to be hard but do just give yourself sometime. Follow where your heart goes. Between the both, there is definitely one whom you will actually like more.
OK, just picture this scenario; there are this two musical concert, both a once in a lifetime concert. Missing it, you will never get the chance to see it again. You have been dying to catch the shows all these while. However for such a coincidence, they are been held at the same timing on the same day. Again, I suppose you will not just give up the chance of catching both shows altogether? Between the two, you will definitely choose one right?
Finally, to get to fully enjoy the show, which you had decided upon, you just got to forget about that disappointment from missing the other show. But well, more often than not, once you found yourself in the musical concert, chances are you will be totally captured by that spectacular ambience, enjoying yourself so much, totally forgotten about any disappointment that you earlier had.
Now where we are discussing about love, it is just the same. Many at times, we just can’t bear to give up on what we already have, struggling so hard within ourselves. In the end, we might jollywell end up with nothing at all. In life, we gain some we lose some. It’s no use holding on so hard to something, which you know will not come out with anything. When you have to give up, you have to. When you have to choose, you just have to.
Just like choosing between the two musical concerts, follow where your heart goes. Once you made up your mind, everything will just seem so much clearer. Slowly, your path of love will reveal its way for you. Will it lead to happiness for you? Well again, we wouldn’t know. But if we never try we will never know. At least, I should believe that you will be much happier than to be still stuck at the cross junction, lost for direction?
Remember, the world is not going to stop turning just for you. So is with love. The two persons will not just keep waiting for you. Wishy-washy? You might just end up with nothing at all.
Happiness won’t come passing by twice, cherish it when you have it.
